Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Knowing is Half the Battle

Happiness|MeditationIt's not that I'm a glass-half-empty type of person, okay yes it is. I am totally a pessimist. You wouldn't necessarily know it from looking at me, but it's true. I don't always dress in gray and black and I don't not put effort into my looks. I'm not that kind of pessimistic person, I'm just not generally very positive on my outlook of things.

Knowing is half the battle right? While I have admitted my pessimistic tendencies to myself, I've never really done anything to change my perspective. After reading The Pursuit of Riches, I've decided to try and work on my outlook on debt, life, and everything in between.

Little Miss Money really feels like an older, wiser, foreign-born version of myself. Every time I read her posts I feel more and more connected to her. We have a lot in common, but the only way that I can someday become her, if she really is a future me :), is to work on my perspective. LMM is very optimistic and up-beat about life in general and this is something I desperately need to work on.

My plan is to spend a little more quiet time, sans TV and other distractions (I'm looking at you smart phone), everyday just relaxing/meditating. I hope to start with about 5 minutes of quiet relaxing, breathing, and thinking each evening before bed. We'll see how it goes and hopefully work it up to twice daily and possibly even for a longer period of time, like 10-15 minutes or so.

I am also going to try to think of one good thing that happened or that I'm thankful for each day. I will write them down on a slip of paper and put them in a jar, at the end of the year, I will look back at each slip of paper before emptying the jar and starting anew. Or maybe I'll write them in a journal, I haven't decided that part yet.

These are some lofty goals, even though they don't take that much time, and I will do my best to keep you all up-to-date on how they are progressing. I think I could get a lot further in all my other goals and aspects of my life if I work on my attitude. After all, there are few things you can control in life, but you attitude and how you react to things is one thing you can control. :)

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10 Comments:

At April 8, 2014 at 11:11 AM , Anonymous E.M. said...

I feel the same way (and love LMM's posts). I tend to expect the worst so as to not get my hopes up, but this way of thinking has jaded my outlook on life. I've been working on this for a while, and it does help to remember the things we have to be thankful for. Besides, living life with a glass-half-empty mentality isn't as fun!

 
At April 8, 2014 at 11:37 AM , Blogger shoeaholicnomore said...

I used to be more optimistic, but events in my life have really affected my outlook. I'm not trying to make an excuse, it's the truth. But, even given life events, I can still work to try and be more positive.

 
At April 8, 2014 at 12:02 PM , Anonymous Shannon @ Financially Blonde said...

A positive frame of mind when working on money goals is key to success. Our finances are driven more on our emotions than anything else, and when we feel good, we stay on the right track financially. I use inspirational playlists to keep me focused on my tasks at hand and keep me uplifted throughout.

 
At April 8, 2014 at 1:30 PM , Blogger shoeaholicnomore said...

Shannon, that's a great idea! What inspirational songs or artists are your favorites?

 
At April 9, 2014 at 12:15 AM , Blogger deardebt said...

This is something I work on everyday. I find myself angry and depressed lately, sometimes for no reason. Sometimes I'm good at balancing it out with optimism and gratitude, other times not. I will rest this weekend, but want to practice self-care and have fun!

 
At April 9, 2014 at 7:55 AM , Blogger shoeaholicnomore said...

Good idea to take the weekend to rest and recoup. I hope you can get your funk turned around :) Self-care and fun are just what the doctor ordered!

 
At April 9, 2014 at 7:55 AM , Anonymous Laurie @thefrugalfarmer said...

SHNM, my friend, you are SO right about a positive attitude. The very best way you can conquer those bad events in your life is to not let them get you down. You deserve better!! You deserve best. :-)

 
At April 9, 2014 at 8:34 AM , Blogger shoeaholicnomore said...

Thanks for the encouragement Laurie, it's just what I needed to hear!

 
At April 12, 2014 at 7:19 PM , Blogger debt debs said...

I totally understand where you are coming from what you said in your first comment. I'm a glass half empty person too but I think I've become that way because I feel like I'm counter-balancing my husband, forever the optimist and not a realist. Truth be told, I don't like being this way, so I'm trying hard to just be me, regardless of what everyone else is doing around me. If, I find my genuine self truly is a pessimist, then so be it. I can live with that and try to change it, but at least then I know it's something I'm doing for myself and to myself, and not blame others for being this way. On the other hand, if I am truly more an optimist, then I will let myself be this, but still be accountable and hold others accountable, so they cannot deflate my true self from what it really wants to be. :-)

 
At April 14, 2014 at 8:15 AM , Blogger shoeaholicnomore said...

What a good point Debt Debs. You seem to truly understand yourself, or are at least working to :)

 

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